"Let us walk with dignity and start 'one anothering'." - Dr. Honey Carandang (Truth-telling & National Healing: Claiming Our Dignity & Integrity as a People talk, June 30, 2011)

Paano Maging Mahusay na Magulang: MLAC Team returns to Brgy. Tumana for Parenting Workshop

Dr. Honey Carandang and the MLAC team in partnership with LINKS School for Life conducted a Parenting Workshop for the teenage and young adult mothers of Brgy. Tumana. LINKS School has been the venue of the workshop for the past six years. A complete writeup will follow care of our team member Richie Parr.

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MLAC Team at The 11th Hour: A National Conference on Climate Change Adaptation and Mental Health

The MLAC Institute served as a partner for The 11th Hour, a conference organized by Balik Kalipay Center last March 22 and 23 at De La Salle University. Dr. Honey and our team members, Ms. Bless de Asis and Dr. Joanna Herrera, were able to give presentations on the following topics:

  1. Psychosocial Impact of Disasters on Women and Children – Dr. Honey Carandang
  2. Mindfulness and the Clinical Practice – Bless de Asis and Joanna Herrera
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The MLAC Booth Outside the Conference Hall

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Dr. Honey giving her talk on the impact of disasters

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Dr. Honey with the panelists

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Dr. Joanna starting the session

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Dr. Joanna giving her talk on Mindfulness

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Tita Bless talking about the Gifts of Mindfulness

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Dr. Joanna and Tita Bless during the panel

Congratulations to Dr. Honey, Dr. Joanna and Tita Bless!

Learning Session on Mindfulness and Work – Life Balance at the Senate Electoral Tribunal

Last March 14, Dr. Honey Carandang was invited by the Senate Electoral Tribunal (SET) to give a learning session on Mindfulness and Work-Life Balance.

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Dr. Honey explains the flow of activities for the day

The talk was divided into two parts: BALANCE: The Key to Emotional and Spiritual Wellness and Mindfulness. The talk emphasized the need for balance between work and play, being with others and solitude, doing and being, and caring and being cared for.

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Participants trying out a mindfulness activity

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Employees of the Senate Electoral Tribunal check out the books of Dr. Honey and MLAC Institute

Dr. Honey also emphasized the need for mindfulness practice in helping the employees of SET to cope with the daily challenges of their lives both at home and work. She ended her talk with mindfulness exercises such as the use of imagery. Participants were also able to ask questions and share their thoughts on the topic.

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A participant asking Dr. Honey a question on mindfulness

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Dr. Honey hands out a certificate of participation to an employee of SET

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Participants hold up their certificates as they pose with Dr. Honey for a group photo

Examine yourself; see what you may be missing: A reflection on Parenting Academy 3

by Joanne Mabanta

As the day began, guests of different ages trickled in little by little. Everyone arrived to listen to Dr. Honey Carandang’s talk on ‘The Power of Compassionate Discipline’. As a well-known clinical psychologist and national social scientist, she has done many contributions to the field of psychology as well as given many talks.

The Parenting Academy, now on its third year, is focusing on compassionate discipline because of the current prevailing culture of violence that is evident in society. According to Dr Carandang, parenting is the means to nation building. It is important, now more than ever, to carry the core value of respect and dignity that each human deserves. An individual, as a parent, may install these values by disciplining his children, not out of fear, but out of love and respect. This proper discipline allows children to incorporate a mode of thinking in their lifestyle that can prevail across different situations. It tells the child what he can or cannot do, and in doing so, the child has a sense of stability and security. If an individual begins early in disciplining his child, the child can then develop a sense of self-discipline that he can use to regulate his own behaviour, and would thus allow him to act according to the values that have been early on instilled in his life. This discipline is done not only so that the life of the parent may become easier, but also it allows them to have something to hang on to. In this manner, a two-way relationship is established between the parent and the child.

Admittedly, disciplining children can be very testing and challenging for the parent. It requires complete attention, consistency, and patience. Being the parent means that you have to be sure of what you’re doing; otherwise, authority will not be effective in the eyes of the child. Thus, to maintain this discipline, one must always remember his purpose in doing it: it is all for the child. After all, the child does not necessarily do these bad things simply just to do them; it is just that they do not know that what they are doing are good or bad. This explains the importance in delineating to them exactly what they can and cannot do.

Dr Carandang stressed that the necessity for discipline does not automatically mean that one must do it with such violence. Oftentimes, there are parents who shout or shame their children when they do the wrong thing. However, this manner of discipline only encourages the child to avoid the adult, instead of correcting the wrong behaviour. It fails to establish a connection with the children that is necessary and will become helpful in the years to come.

My biggest takeaway from Dr Carandang’s talk was the importance of this connection; with it, the parent does not have to worry about the child as he grows up, because you as the parent have already helped him build up his own identity upon growing up. He already knows what to do, and he knows that he can count on you to be there for him whatever happens. Your compassionate discipline when he was younger will act as his moral compass for him to be his own person, the best and good version of himself. This then stresses the importance of good parenting: as a parent, one must know how much role he plays in the life of his child.

You might want to think about if you’re parenting your child well. Examine yourself; see what you may be missing. Maybe all it takes is a little awareness for your child to be able to go the extra mile.

Highlights from Parenting Academy 3: The Power of Compassionate Discipline 

We’d like to thank you again for supporting Parenting Academy 3: The Power of Compassionate Discipline! 

Based on comments and suggestions from Parenting Academy 1 & 2, Dr. Honey Carandang and the MLAC team changed the format of the event this year by making the afternoon session an experiential workshop, where participants were able to share and discuss their thoughts and insights on the morning talk by Dr. Carandang with fellow participants. To give each participant the time and space to talk and be listened to, the small group sharing was limited to 6-10 participants per group only. 

Since words may not always be enough to express what they were feeling, the participants were also given a chance to express themselves through the arts – using paper, colored pens, clay, and other art materials. 

Another change in format was that the open forum was led and facilitated by Dr. Honey’s son, former broadcast journalist and communications secretary Ricky Carandang, and acclaimed broadcast journalist Ces Drilon. Ricky and Ces’ questions allowed for an even deeper discussion about Compassionate Discipline not only in the family but also in the country.

Thank you very much for your very positive response to these changes in our format. We look forward to seeing you again next year!

Below are some more pictures from the event:

 

Dr. Honey Carandang gives a talk on The Power of Compassionate Discipline in the morning

 
 

The open forum was led and facilitated by Ricky Carandang and Ces Drilon

 
 

The afternoon workshop included a lot of experiential activities

 
 

The participants were able to express themselves through the arts during the afternoon workshop

  

Examples of artworks by the participants

 
 

Examples of artworks by the participants

  

Examples of artworks by the participants

 
 

Dr. Honey Carandang with the participants from the Nanay-Teacher team

  

The MLAC team and MLAC volunteers (mostly Psych students from Miriam College) pose for a group picture after a job well done!

 

Thank you for attending Parenting Academy 3: The Power of Compassionate Discipline!

Thank you so much to all our family, friends, sponsors, and all who supported us in many different ways! You have made our Parenting Academy 3 a success!

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Thank you to those who attended Parenting Academy 3!

Hi everyone! Thank you again for attending Parenting Academy 3! Certificates will be sent out this week.